My heart is breaking at the recent & sudden loss of a dear friend. So as I weep, I write.
No one has to have it all together, no one has to be perfect. Yet even as I write this, why don’t I still believe it 100%? Because everywhere I look, the message around me tells me otherwise.
I can’t help but feel if we worked as hard to relate to people, rather than impressing them, we would impact those around us on a whole new level.
We should remind the world that its okay to fail, to fall flat on our faces, to be so incredibly lost, so incredibly lonely.
The key is our relationships. Who do we surround ourselves with? Who can we count on? We should be able to depend on those around us to pick us up when we hit rock bottom. To help dust us off, and walk with us until we are strong enough to be on our own again, and face another day.
Dr. Sanjay Gupta wrote on Oprah’s website, “If our relationships can have such an effect on our overall health, why don’t we prioritize spending time with the people around us as much as we do exercising and eating right?”
In a world full of “likes” and “friends”, why are we lonelier than ever?
Because its not authentic. We are afraid to show our true colors, for fear of seeming less than perfect.
So I challenge you all once again.
Reach out to someone. Not via text or email. But really REACH out, ( you must be physical for this). Look someone in their eyes, maybe even hold their hand, but really LISTEN to what they say when you ask them how things are going.
It could be the frenzied neighbor that looks like she really needs a break.
Or the “always put together” mom you see at carpool everyday?
Chances are, no matter who you choose to reach out to, they are dying to express themselves.
So shout it from the rooftops, friends. Be proud of your imperfections; they are what make you approachable and unique. And you never know who you might be comforting by just being YOU.
We may not all be doctors, but we can certainly make it our jobs to try to mend lives one ailing person at a time.
I miss you terribly Jane.